What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
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What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
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Summary
In this conversation, Alex Trippier and Elissa Strauss delve into the complexities of motherhood, feminism, and caregiving. They explore the emotional challenges of motherhood, the evolving roles of men in parenting, and the societal structures that impact caregivers. The discussion emphasizes the importance of community support, the need for cultural change in how we view care, and the deeper meanings that arise from the act of caring for others. Through personal anecdotes and broader societal observations, they highlight the necessity of redefining success and happiness in the context of parenting and caregiving.
Takeaways
Motherhood can evoke deep emotional responses and challenges.Feminist writings often present a zero-sum game regarding motherhood.Care relationships extend beyond parenting to include all forms of dependency.The impact of caregiving on the caregiver is often overlooked.Men are increasingly involved in caregiving roles, but face unique challenges.Cultural narratives around success and ambition need to evolve.Support systems are crucial for the well-being of caregivers.Care is a process that defies traditional measures of success.Community and shared experiences can alleviate the burdens of caregiving.Cultural change requires effort and a willingness to redefine norms.
Titles
The Emotional Journey of MotherhoodFeminism and the Reality of Motherhood
Sound bites
"It's a long game.""It's not an accessory. It's at the core.""We need to normalize asking for help."
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Book Discussion02:24 Motherhood Perspectives and Feminist Writings03:01 The Complexity of Care Relationships06:08 The Impact of Care on Caregivers07:12 Listening and Understanding in Parenting10:15 The Process of Care vs. Outcome Orientation13:04 The Role of Men in Caregiving15:49 Cultural Shifts in Fatherhood18:43 The Value of Care in Society21:43 Navigating Care and Financial Resources27:32 The Complexity of Parenting and Support28:56 The Impact of Structural Support on Parental Happiness31:39 Finding Meaning Beyond Parenting34:25 The Burden of Care and the Need for Support37:16 Reimagining Community and Shared Care41:46 Darwin's Insights on Care and Cooperation45:02 Redefining Success and Ambition in Parenting48:18 The Importance of Asking for Help51:29 Building Trust and Community in Parenting53:58 Culture Change as a Collective Responsibility
Keywords
motherhood, feminism, care, parenting, emotional intelligence, men's roles, community support, cultural change, caregiving, happiness
Be a Happier Parent
What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
