What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
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What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
Ep 23: Can We Parent Without Shame? With Elisabeth Harrod
Be a Happier Parent
56 minutes
1 week ago
Ep 23: Can We Parent Without Shame? With Elisabeth Harrod
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Keywords
parenting, emotional regulation, shame, child development, dads, moms, self-worth, mistakes, gender dynamics, coaching
Summary
In this conversation, Elisabeth and Alex explore the dynamics of parenting, particularly focusing on the unique challenges and perspectives of dads. They discuss the importance of emotional regulation, the impact of shame on parenting, and the necessity of allowing children to learn from their mistakes. The conversation also delves into gender dynamics in parenting roles and the significance of fostering self-worth in children, emphasizing the need for parents to support their children while also allowing them the space to grow and learn independently.
Takeaways
Elisabeth connects more easily with men than women.Parental expectations can create shame in children.Ending shame involves replacing it with acceptance.Emotional regulation is crucial for children.Parents often do too much for their children.Children need to learn from their mistakes.Gender dynamics influence parenting styles.Self-worth is essential for children's development.Parents' egos can be tied to their children's outcomes.Teaching children to solve their own problems fosters independence.
Titles
Connecting with Dads: A Unique PerspectiveUnderstanding Parental Expectations and Child Development
Sound bites
"I connect more easily with men.""This is creating shame.""You can do it."
Chapters
00:00 Connecting with Dads: The Podcast Journey06:04 Understanding Parenting Expectations and Shame10:48 Collaborative Parenting: Meeting Children Where They Are11:40 The Role of Shame in Parenting16:25 Emotional Regulation: Teaching Kids to Express Feelings21:36 Gender Differences in Emotional Expression27:22 The Impact of Control on Children's Learning31:13 Leveraging Children's Interests for Connection32:33 The Reality of Parenting Expectations34:54 Guilt, Shame, and the Dark Side of Parenting36:00 Navigating Teenage Independence41:34 The Balance of Nurturing and Independence43:14 Fearless Parenting: Letting Go46:28 The Role of Fathers in Parenting47:38 Transitioning from Boys to Men51:01 Empowering Problem Solving in Children52:49 Navigating Shame and Self-Worth
Be a Happier Parent
What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
