What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
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What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
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Keywords
resilience, parenting, adversity, children, self-leadership, technology, community, struggle, mental health, emotional intelligence
Summary
In this conversation, Tim Curtis shares his insights on resilience, particularly in children, drawing from his experiences in the SAS and his work in teaching resilience. He emphasizes the importance of adversity in building resilience, the role of struggle in achieving happiness, and the need for children to engage in free play and face risks to develop agency and problem-solving skills. Curtis also discusses the impact of technology on children's mental health and the importance of trust and communication in parenting.
Takeaways
Resilience is built through adversity and stress.Children need to experience some stress to develop resilience.Allowing children to sit in their emotions is crucial for self-awareness.Struggle is essential for true happiness and growth.Boredom can lead to creativity and self-leadership in children.Community and free play are vital for children's development.Technology can impair resilience if not monitored properly.Trusting children to navigate risks fosters independence.Parents should model vulnerability and risk-taking for their children.Building a supportive community can enhance parenting and child development.
Titles
Building Resilient Kids: Insights from an SAS VeteranThe Importance of Adversity in Child Development
Sound bites
"Resilience needs stress to be built.""With risk comes opportunity.""You can't just strip out the risk."
Chapters
00:00 From Soldier to Advocate for Children06:29 The Link Between Resilience and Morality06:42 Understanding Resilience: Definitions and Components11:28 Resilience: A Dynamic and Modifiable Concept16:07 The Necessity of Adversity in Building Resilience20:24 Happiness Through Struggle vs. Comfort24:27 Harnessing Synthetic Happiness for Better Outcomes25:03 Navigating Happiness: Synthetic vs. Enduring Joy26:05 The Importance of Boredom and Self-Leadership28:40 Challenging Negativity Bias in Parenting29:53 The Role of Free Play in Child Development34:23 Understanding Screen Time and Its Impact42:50 Lessons from Parenting: Embracing Individuality46:20 Finding Alternatives to Team Sports47:56 The Power of Communal Parenting51:42 Risk, Opportunity, and Resilience in Parenting
Be a Happier Parent
What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
