What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
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What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
Ep 17: What Happens When Dads are Put in Charge? With Dr Marte Bergan
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54 minutes
2 months ago
Ep 17: What Happens When Dads are Put in Charge? With Dr Marte Bergan
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https://ora.ox.ac.uk/objects/uuid:800e3289-08ad-449f-a00d-f5da87f1100d
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Keywords
gender equality, Norway, parental leave, daddy quota, family dynamics, cultural values, work-life balance, childcare, feminism, societal norms
Summary
In this conversation, Marte discusses the cultural and governmental factors that have shaped gender equality in Norway, particularly in relation to parental leave policies and the daddy quota. The discussion explores the evolving roles of fathers in childcare, the dynamics of resentment in relationships, and the long-term impacts of these policies on family life. Marte emphasizes the importance of shared responsibilities and the need for societal change to foster a more egalitarian approach to parenting and work-life balance.
Takeaways
Gender equality is deeply embedded in Norwegian culture.Government policies have played a crucial role in promoting gender equality.The daddy quota encourages fathers to take an active role in childcare.Cultural values in Norway prioritize family time and work-life balance.Mothers often retain the managerial role in family dynamics.Resentment can arise from unequal distribution of parenting responsibilities.Parental leave policies impact long-term family relationships.Fathers in Norway are seen as experts in childcare due to their involvement.The corporate culture in Norway supports flexible working hours for both parents.Societal norms need to evolve to support shared parenting responsibilities.
Titles
Exploring Gender Equality in NorwayThe Impact of the Daddy Quota
Sound bites
"It's in our national DNA.""We value family time.""It's use it or lose it."
Chapters
00:00 Cultural Foundations of Parenthood04:03 The Daddy Quota: A Game Changer06:55 Work-Life Balance in Norway vs. the UK08:37 The Impact of Gender Roles on Parenting11:06 Men's Perspectives on Parenting and Work13:35 Long-Term Effects of Parental Leave Policies16:09 The Importance of Shared Responsibilities19:03 Conclusions and Future Directions31:42 Work-Life Balance in Norway vs. the UK34:45 Resentment in Parenting Roles36:51 Judgment and Gender Expectations40:53 Redefining Parenting Roles45:56 The Manager vs. Expert Dynamic49:57 Cultural Shifts in Parenting52:43 The System of Gendered Parenting
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What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
