What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
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What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
Ep 16: How Not to Hate Your Partner with Jancee Dunn
Be a Happier Parent
58 minutes
2 months ago
Ep 16: How Not to Hate Your Partner with Jancee Dunn
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Summary
In this conversation, Jancee Dunn shares her experiences navigating the complexities of marriage and parenthood, highlighting the unexpected challenges that arise when transitioning into parenthood. She discusses the importance of communication, the impact of societal expectations on relationships, and the necessity of seeking help through couples therapy. Dunn emphasizes the need for clarity in roles and responsibilities, as well as the importance of reconnecting with one's partner after having children. The conversation also touches on the challenges of maintaining intimacy and the emotional toll of parenting on relationships.
Chapters
00:00 Communication Breakdown in Relationships07:42 The Asymmetry of Communication Between Genders10:21 Understanding Stonewalling and Its Effects16:19 The Role of Empathy in Conflict Resolution18:14 Seeking Help: The Journey to Therapy24:30 Terry Real's Tough Love Approach30:39 The Impact of Parental Conflict on Children32:20 Breaking the Cycle of Anger33:13 Understanding Communication in Relationships33:58 Reconnecting as Partners34:53 Navigating the Transition to Empty Nest35:48 Establishing Systems for Relationship Health37:30 The Importance of Date Nights38:56 Mindfulness in Parenting and Relationships42:51 The Impact of Sensuality on Intimacy43:49 The Work Behind a Healthy Sex Life47:51 Resentment and Connection in Relationships51:29 Preparing for Parenthood53:31 The Division of Labor in Parenting56:03 Negotiation and Clarity in Relationships56:53 The Power Imbalance in Relationships
Keywords
parenthood, relationships, communication, couples therapy, intimacy, family dynamics, conflict resolution, marriage, parenting challenges, emotional connection
Takeaways
We were one of those annoying couples who rarely fought.You don't know until it happens how your life is going to completely turn upside down.We passed it, but not us.There's something taboo about this fighting that goes on behind closed doors.I would expect him to read my mind.It's not taking a break. It's punitive.You can't talk to him like that.What are you giving to the relationship?You have to learn to negotiate.It's comforting to know a lot of us are going through this.
Titles
Navigating Parenthood: The Realities of MarriageCommunication in Relationships: The Key to Connection
Sound Bites
"We passed it, but not us.""You can't talk to him like that.""You have to learn to negotiate."
Be a Happier Parent
What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
