What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
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What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
Ep 15: Teenagers and the Wonder and Delight of Uncertainty with Rachel Kelly
Be a Happier Parent
54 minutes
2 months ago
Ep 15: Teenagers and the Wonder and Delight of Uncertainty with Rachel Kelly
You can find Rachel on https://rachel-kelly.net/
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Summary
In this conversation, Rachel Kelly discusses the complexities of parenting teenagers, emphasizing the importance of self-relationship, connection, and understanding. She explores how parents can navigate their own needs while fostering autonomy in their children, the illusion of control, and the impact of societal expectations on parenting. The dialogue highlights the significance of compassion, judgment, and the evolving nature of parent-child relationships as children grow into adulthood.
Takeaways
Your main relationship is with yourself.Connecting with teenagers requires understanding and compassion.Parents must navigate their own needs while supporting their children.The illusion of control can hinder relationships with teenagers.Managing expectations and anxiety is crucial in parenting.Embracing differences and individuality fosters connection.Judgment can be detrimental; compassion is key.The parent-child relationship evolves as children grow.Supporting children means assisting, not rescuing them.Parenting becomes more rewarding as children mature.
Keywords
parenting, teenagers, self-relationship, connection, control, anxiety, compassion, individuality, judgment, growth
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Personal Connections04:20 Emotional Regulation and Connection05:32 The Evolution of Parent-Teen Relationships06:43 Letting Go of Control09:30 The Shift in Parenting Dynamics10:19 Practical Strategies for Better Communication12:41 Expectations and Reality in Family Life15:51 The Importance of Timing in Conversations18:28 Nutrition and Well-being for Teenagers24:53 Navigating Parenting Challenges26:58 Understanding Anxiety in Parenting29:29 The Gendered Anxiety Gap33:43 Embracing Uncertainty in Parenting37:54 Judgment and Compassion in Parenting42:10 The Importance of Connection45:06 Redefining Pride and Agency in Parenting51:24 The Evolving Parent-Child Relationship
Titles
Navigating the Teenage Years: A Parent's GuideThe Art of Connection: Parenting Teens
Sound Bites
"We want to connect, right?""What else could be possible?""You can learn and grow."
Be a Happier Parent
What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
