What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
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What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
Ep 10: Let Go of Great Parenting with Amiee Carlton
Be a Happier Parent
1 hour 1 minute 41 seconds
4 months ago
Ep 10: Let Go of Great Parenting with Amiee Carlton
You can find all Amiee's work here: amieecarltoncoaching.com
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Summary
In this conversation, Alex Trippier and Amiee Carlton delve into the complexities of parenting, exploring themes such as the culture of blame, emotional communication, and the pressures parents face in striving for perfection. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, agency, and the need for a shift in perspective towards parenting, emphasizing that it is not about controlling children but understanding their needs and emotions. The dialogue also touches on the impact of socioeconomic factors and the evolution of parenting expectations in modern society, ultimately advocating for a more compassionate and understanding approach to raising children.
Takeaways
Parents can only change their own behavior, not their children's.The culture of blame in parenting leads to increased anxiety.Understanding the environment is crucial in addressing children's behavior.There is no absolute definition of good or bad parenting.Parenting is inherently challenging and requires patience.Agency in parenting means recognizing what we can control.Gentle parenting is often misunderstood and requires deeper understanding.Socioeconomic factors significantly influence parenting dynamics.Parenting expectations have evolved, leading to increased pressure on parents.Self-awareness is key to effective parenting and communication.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Parenting Coaching03:41 The Parent-Child Dynamic05:09 Understanding Behavior and Environment07:36 The Role of Ego in Parenting10:02 Cultural Constructs of Good and Bad13:07 Navigating Parenting Challenges15:26 The Selfish Nature of Parenting18:25 Socioeconomic Influences on Parenting20:20 The Importance of Relationships20:48 Understanding the Nervous System in Parenting22:21 The Debate on Gentle Parenting23:38 Defining Successful Parenting24:30 The Challenge of Emotional Acceptance26:40 The Exhaustion of Parenting Dynamics28:11 Building Relationships Takes Time29:56 Navigating Parenting in Public Spaces31:50 The Impact of Past Parenting Styles33:56 Connection Over Control in Parenting36:32 Understanding Anxiety in Children38:32 The Evolution of Parenting and Meaning42:03 Parental Anxiety and Its Effects44:18 Redefining Great Parenting47:23 The Complexity of Parenting Dynamics51:28 Building Effective Communication and Boundaries55:47 Embracing Growth Through Failure59:51 The Importance of Self-Work in Parenting
Keywords
parenting, communication, emotional intelligence, gentle parenting, parental anxiety, self-awareness, relationships, child development, parenting culture, agency
Titles
Navigating the Complexities of ParentingThe Power of Self-Awareness in Parenting
Sound Bites
"We live in a culture of blame.""Why is this happening?""It's hard because it's hard."
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What does parenting do to us? Why do we do it? Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting will be and what it is? What are the jobs of Mums and Dads now: What’s a dad when he’s no longer just a provider, what’s a mum when she quite often is? Why, when we think having children will bring us together, does it so often push us apart? How do I know what to teach and model for my children when I don’t know what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have so much conviction about these things and I have absolutely none?
Well, I don’t know but luckily there are some really clever people all over the world who are thinking about these things and they’ve agreed to talk to me. So maybe we won’t be able to answer all these questions every week but maybe if we listen to their ideas we can gain some insight and some wisdom and maybe most importantly some perspective and find out what it takes to be a happier parent.
