It's hard, but when you accept that your marital status is determined by God, you will experience a preternatural peace. While size matters, being smaller or fit does not guarantee that you will be treated with respect and love. Women who have never been "fat" a day in their lives have been mistreated, abused, lied to...and even killed. Big women, please stop trying to get men to look beyond your weight. Shedding pounds does not lead to shedding problems. Let those men get what they want. Seek out God for direction and guidance. If it is His will that you marry, you will. Dry your eyes, and focus on all the good things in your life rather than fretting about not being married. Listen and learn.