n this special mini-series episode, I’m sharing all the books I’ve recommended on the podcast so far — especially for listeners who may not be on Instagram. I use books because they help us express the things we can’t always say out loud. They open doors into experiences, emotions, and immigrant journeys that many of us carry quietly.
This episode brings all those titles together in one place, and I also share what’s coming next — November’s book pick, Bitter Honey by Lọlá Ákínmádé
n this special mini-series episode, I’m sharing all the books I’ve recommended on the podcast so far — especially for listeners who may not be on Instagram. I use books because they help us express the things we can’t always say out loud. They open doors into experiences, emotions, and immigrant journeys that many of us carry quietly.
This episode brings all those titles together in one place, and I also share what’s coming next — November’s book pick, Bitter Honey by Lọlá Ákínmádé
Guests: Prisscah V, Mutsah M, Kola, Dr. Musoma
In this powerful episode, we unpack the concept of Black Tax — the financial expectations placed on immigrants by families back home. Rooted in love, culture, and care, this sense of duty is deeply embedded in African values. Giving back often brings pride and meaning. But what happens when cultural expectations clash with the realities of living in America?
We explore:
Should we help immediately or first understand America?
What happened to paying it forward?
When does helping turn into dependency?
Is lifestyle creep reducing our ability to give?
Why are needs sometimes exaggerated?
Can support be mutual — check-ins, indigenous food, or simply a “hello”?
This honest conversation brings warmth, laughter, tension, and a collective agreement: we love to give, but not at the cost of our well-being.
Quote of the Episode:
"Don’t take away from your children what made you a man." — Unknown
Book Mentioned: Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud
🔥 Real talk for real people. Part 2 is a must.