Who doesn't have conflict in their lives? Whether at work, at home or somewhere out in the world we are all affected by conflict even when it is indirect. The impact of poorly managed conflict can devastate lives. With 30 years’ experience mediating conflict and training peacemakers, Maria has held people’s hearts through everything from workplace hostility, board room battles, belligerent teenagers, separated parents at loggerheads to neighbours at war, street gang rivalries, threats to life and business deals gone wrong. In this podcast Maria lifts the lid on why we fight and how we can resolve conflict and design it out of our lives. Maria’s mission is to reduce unnecessary human suffering through conscious awareness, facilitated dialogue and trauma healing, using her communications tool, the Dialogue Road Map.
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Who doesn't have conflict in their lives? Whether at work, at home or somewhere out in the world we are all affected by conflict even when it is indirect. The impact of poorly managed conflict can devastate lives. With 30 years’ experience mediating conflict and training peacemakers, Maria has held people’s hearts through everything from workplace hostility, board room battles, belligerent teenagers, separated parents at loggerheads to neighbours at war, street gang rivalries, threats to life and business deals gone wrong. In this podcast Maria lifts the lid on why we fight and how we can resolve conflict and design it out of our lives. Maria’s mission is to reduce unnecessary human suffering through conscious awareness, facilitated dialogue and trauma healing, using her communications tool, the Dialogue Road Map.
In this special episode of "All Things Conflict," Maria and Robin Shohet engage in a profound conversation about the complexities of forgiveness. They explore the misconceptions surrounding forgiveness, emphasising that it is not about moral superiority or condoning harmful actions, but rather a personal journey towards self-liberation. Robin shares a personal story that highlights the importance of recognizing how we often hold onto anger towards a "ghost" of the past, and how true forgiveness is ultimately about releasing ourselves from toxic thoughts. The discussion delves into the significance of self-forgiveness, the impact of our intentions versus the consequences of our actions, and the transformative power of shifting our perspective from judgment to love. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences with forgiveness and to consider the ways in which they can cultivate a mindset of gratitude and compassion in their lives.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Forgiveness as Self-Release: Forgiveness is primarily about releasing oneself from the burden of anger and resentment, rather than about the other person. It is a personal journey that allows individuals to let go of toxic thoughts and emotions.
Distinction Between Intent and Impact: Understanding the difference between one's intentions and the actual impact of their actions is crucial. Many people may believe they are acting with good intentions, but the consequences of their actions can be harmful, highlighting the need for self-reflection.
Forgiveness is Not Superiority: Forgiveness should not be viewed as a moral high ground or an act of superiority. It is not about being the "bigger person" but rather about acknowledging one's own feelings and experiences without judgment.
The Role of Grief: Grief can often be intertwined with the inability to forgive. Recognizing that grief may have nowhere to go can help individuals understand their emotional state and the importance of processing these feelings to move towards forgiveness.
Shifting Perspectives: Practicing curiosity and love in interactions can transform relationships and reduce conflict. By consciously choosing to view situations through a lens of curiosity rather than fear or judgment, individuals can foster a more compassionate and understanding environment.
Episode Resourses
The Forgiveness Habit - Jo Ann RotermundBBCiplayer. - Hamza Forgiving the UnforgivableThe Forgiveness ProjectGlobal Forgiveness Initiative.
SOCIAL LINKS
www.centreforpeacefulsolutions.org
www.peacefulsolutions.org.uk
www.workplacehuddle.com
HOST BIO
Maria founded the Centre for Peaceful Solutions in response to the fatal shooting of a 7 year old in her neighbourhood. She developed a model of conflict resolution for violent crime using her brainchild, the Dialogue Road Map (DRM).
Over 30 years she has mediated everything from threat to life gang disputes to high stakes business deals gone wrong, Maria empowers people to resolve conflict without reliance on experts. So she trains violent prisoners to be facilitators, leaders to be effective communicators, teenagers to be peer mediators and neighbours to be tenant listeners within their respective communities.
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All Things Conflict
Who doesn't have conflict in their lives? Whether at work, at home or somewhere out in the world we are all affected by conflict even when it is indirect. The impact of poorly managed conflict can devastate lives. With 30 years’ experience mediating conflict and training peacemakers, Maria has held people’s hearts through everything from workplace hostility, board room battles, belligerent teenagers, separated parents at loggerheads to neighbours at war, street gang rivalries, threats to life and business deals gone wrong. In this podcast Maria lifts the lid on why we fight and how we can resolve conflict and design it out of our lives. Maria’s mission is to reduce unnecessary human suffering through conscious awareness, facilitated dialogue and trauma healing, using her communications tool, the Dialogue Road Map.
