Ep. 99: Figuring out what your envy is really trying to tell you
Jealousy isn’t a dirty word—it’s information.
In this episode, therapist and Open Space Counselling founder Elana Sures unpacks how envy can be a powerful signal pointing toward your values, your longings, and the life you actually want.
We talk about Elana’s own experience navigating the “mom hustle,” career jealousy, and the identity shake-up that led her from public health into thriving private practice—and eventually to building a multi-location clinic.
In this conversation, we explore:
What jealousy is actually trying to show you
How to spot longing underneath comparison
Why moms often carry more of the mental/emotional load around career decisions
Envy as a career compass
How to create your own version of success at a realistic scale
The “scar vs. wound” rule for vulnerable sharing
What to do if you feel triggered by other people’s highlight reels
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Ep. 96: Feel better NOW and find joy in life's little pleasures with Catherine Roscoe Barr – Spotify or Apple or YouTube
Ep. 98: How to rebuild strength and confidence after kids (and feel good naked) – Spotify or Apple
About Elana
Elana Sures is a therapist and owner of Open Space Counselling, a large therapy clinic located in Vancouver and the North Shore. She is also the creator of the clinic’s popular Mom Rage Reset program. With nearly 20 years of experience in maternal mental health, Elana is passionate about helping mothers develop more balanced emotions, rich relationships, and satisfying lives.
Website: openspacecounselling.ca
Instagram: @openspacecounselling
About Andrea Barr, host of All Figured Out:
Andrea Barr is a certified career and life coach who helps ambitious parents take charge of their careers and lives with strategy, intention, and freedom. She rejects the idea that success requires sacrifice—showing parents how to create more time, flexibility, and fulfillment without burnout. Through her coaching, workshops, and podcast, All Figured Out, Andrea shares the strategies and mindset shifts parents need to design careers that fit their lives—so they can thrive at work and at home.
Connect with Andrea via Instagram here or her website here.