We’re not done with this topic of Relationship Goals! Welcome back for part two and today I share more personal stories than before, in hopes that it will help you.
Referring to quotes from the book, “Relationship Goals” by Mike Todd; encouraged by all your questions; and shares from episode 19 “Relationship Goals”, let’s dive deeper.
There’s this concept of the counterfeit that the book introduces to the reader. The person who you hope will be the person for you, but as the author mentions, “...you end up needing to heal from being in a relationship instead, when things don’t work out.”. Many Christians - including me - can vouch to that happening. Feeling lonely, blocking out the discernment and good advice of the wiser counsel for the sake of your happiness. Short-lived happiness or pleasure, if we’re honest.
"When we don’t wait on the Lord, we give the Enemy the chance to introduce us to counterfeits. Then we deal with the results of mistakes and have to get healed and delivered from something God never meant for us to experience." - Pastor Mike Todd
So how do we know when the right person is in our lives? The book of Ephisians 1:17 -18 mentions the desire for, “the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Him, the eyes of your enlightened; that you may know what is the hope of your calling...”. A prayer for wisdom and studying His word helping us to develop better judgment when making these decisions. No one is perfect, but that's why the growth has to be intentional. Aligning our prayers and desires to that of scripture is what brings us closer to God and gives us lasting results in all areas of life.
Did you notice the mention of connection to our purpose? Realizing that poor decisions in relationships can lead us away from God’s purpose for our life. In this episode I make mention of purpose partners. Purpose partners are individuals who enter our lives and share a similar passion, vision, or purpose. They walk alongside us, supporting and challenging us to grow, while also providing guidance and encouragement. They may not only be romantic, but they are those we can make real change and build powerful structures to glorify God.
What has made the biggest difference in my life is listening to those wiser than me and preparing for that partnership. Many of us haven’t seen healthy relationships in our communities or homes, so how could we possibly just know? I hope after listening to this episode, you are encouraged to learn more about developing healthy relationships, and to develop the patience needed to wait for your partner God has for you.
Please share your stories and encourage our community. You never know how much your story could mean to someone. If you’ve found your purpose-partner, I would love to hear your story too, via email or DM on Instagram.
This podcast is a co-production between Bantu Bungane and Emerging Africa.
Sound and music production by Emerging Africa and Carlin Davids from Knew Knowledge Productions.
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