In the aftermath of infidelity, accountability is often the missing piece. Too often, the betrayed partner is left carrying the heavy work of healing while the unfaithful partner minimises, avoids, or even gets a free pass from professionals who should know better. But without accountability, there can be no real repair. In this episode, Luke explores what accountability actually looks like, why it’s so often resisted, and why shame, vulnerability, and societal conditioning make it so difficult. He also unpacks how accountability links to breaking painful intergenerational cycles, and why the betrayed partner’s need for balance must be taken seriously. Key Takeaways Accountability is not endless self-punishment, it’s owning your choices, acknowledging the harm caused, and committing to change. Shame often blocks accountability; separating actions from identity can make it possible. Betrayed partners frequently do the heavy lifting, but without accountability from the unfaithful partner, the relationship rests on a tilted foundation. Counsellors and support systems sometimes mishandle accountability, either due to cultural factors, poor training, or the betrayed’s lens of pain, but validation and directness are essential. True accountability is about breaking cycles: recognising old wounds, refusing to repeat them, and creating something healthier for the future. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity