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149. When the Woman Cheats: and the Man Is Left Holding the Pieces
After the Affair
10 minutes 43 seconds
3 months ago
149. When the Woman Cheats: and the Man Is Left Holding the Pieces
When a woman cheats, the cultural narrative often skips over the man left behind. The one quietly carrying the weight. The one told to “move on,” “man up,” or “take it on the chin.”
This episode is for him.
If you’ve been betrayed by the woman you trusted, if you’re left wrestling with confusion, anger, self-doubt, or shame, this episode gives you language, perspective, and grounding.
Join me Luke Shillings, as together I'll guide you to learn:
Why her betrayal says more about her pain than your worth.
How to stop internalising someone else’s chaos as your reflection.
The difference between being chosen… and being used.
Why “being strong” isn’t the answer, and what real strength actually looks like.
Let this be the reminder:
You’re not weak for feeling.
You’re not broken for hurting.
And you’re not alone in this.
🔑 Key Takeaways
Her affair is not evidence of your inadequacy; it’s a reflection of her disconnection.
You are not the exception to her behaviour. You’re the next person exposed to it.
If you weren’t chosen, it doesn’t mean you weren’t worthy; it means she wasn’t ready to face herself.
Real healing centres your story, not just hers.
Choosing to feel and process is not weakness; it’s maturity.
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