There has been an ongoing war against women and children for decades. We have cried, marched, screamed and done just about anything we can but it seems the gender based violence is not get any better. It is very clear that it is not up to the woman to change but imperative for the men to speak up, take responsibility and help each other change and stop gender based violence.  

It is for this very reason that in this episode of AFTER DARK I speak to Tumelo Mabena, a rehabilitated woman abuser turned gender based violence activist. The thought to even have the conversation was burdening and fearful but so necessary. As you watch this I hope it affords you an opportunity to heal and a better understanding of what goes on in the mind of an abuser, the role of society and most importantly of men in leading that change. It needs to stop and it can because enough is enough!  

This conversation will hurt and it will leave many feeling broken but it is out of your broken pieces that I hope you be moulded back to peace.   

Fear will not and cannot hold us back from healing. We will endeavour to cast out the darkness, for it can only be light that will follow.