On this week's episode, Queer Eye star Jonathan Van Ness and sex therapist Casey Tanner, MA, LCPC give some truly servicey advice about how to have sex and start dating when you're newly out as queer. We cover a wide range of topics in this fun, thoughtful, and emotionally moving show, from lube to consent; safety to self-compassion. Here's to finding your person—and having a lot of (safe, consensual!) fun along the way. There are several great resources available if you’re newly out as queer. During the episode, Carolyn suggests reading this VICE article: A Beginner's Guide for 'Straight' Women Who Want to Act on Queer Feelings, by Rachel Miller.  Casey Tanner, the queer sex educator on today’s episode, doles out stellar sex advice (for everyone!)—you can follow her @queersextherapy. You can also learn more about Casey’s offerings and upcoming online courses for couples here. Jonathan Van Ness is a host on Netflix’s hit show, Queer Eye. You can follow him @jvn, check out his memoir, Over the Top: A Raw Journey to Self-Love, or read his recent profile from SELF right here. Don’t miss out on new episodes of Checking In on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Apple Podcasts: http://listen.self.com/self-apple Spotify: http://listen.self.com/self-spotify Google Podcasts: http://listen.self.com/self-google Don't forget to sign up for the Checking In newsletter here: https://www.self.com/newsletter/checking-in If you have a health or wellness question of your own and want a chance to be featured on the podcast, you can submit it here.