Are consequences the only way to manage behaviour? In this thought-provoking solo episode, behaviour specialist and trainer Andy Baker challenges one of the most commonly accepted ideas in parenting, education, and care: that consequences are the best way to teach behaviour. From the science of brain regulation to trauma-informed practice and real-world stories, Andy shares six powerful, research-backed strategies that are not only more effective—but also kinder. Whether you're a parent, teacher, support worker or carer, this episode will shift your mindset and give you tools to build connection instead of control. 💙 Sponsored by: Are you caring for someone, paid or unpaid? You could be missing out on thousands of pounds in discounts.Carers Card UK offers: ID card with emergency info access Exclusive discounts on gyms, days out, electrical goods, and more Access to a wellbeing hub, Carers Circle tool, and mobile app All for less than the price of a box of chocolates per year. 🎟️ Order your card today 🔗 Resources Mentioned: Polyvagal Theory – Explained by NICABM Andy Baker’s Book: Targeting the Positive with Behaviours That Challenge 💡 Three Key Messages: Punishment isn't teaching—it’s suppression.True behaviour change comes from teaching, not controlling. Consequences alone rarely build long-term learning or emotional resilience. Connection is the most powerful behaviour tool we have.Co-regulation, empathy, storytelling and reflection help build the skills needed to manage behaviour from the inside out. Investing time upfront saves time later.It may feel quicker to impose a consequence, but when we use modelling and skill-building instead, we reduce repeat incidents. ⏱️ Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Consequences aren’t the only tool 00:25 – Sponsor: Carers Card UK 01:46 – Why we default to punishment: evolution, culture, behaviourism 03:46 – How punishment creates a cycle of low self-esteem 04:50 – The brain under stress: why consequences fail when dysregulated 05:37 – Shame, deflection, and emotional safety 06:00 – The 6 teaching tools that work better than consequences: Modelling Practice & rehearsal Co-regulation Reflection & repair Storytelling & metaphor Natural/logical consequences 13:52 – What about accountability? 15:23 – Is this all too “soft”? Or is it strategic? 16:22 – Weekly challenge: replace one consequence with a teaching tool 🎯 Why Listen to This Episode? This episode flips the script on how we teach behaviour—whether you’re a parent, teacher, carer, or support worker. You’ll walk away with practical, compassionate alternatives to traditional discipline, rooted in psychology, neuroscience and real-life application. If you’ve ever asked:➡️ “What else can I do when consequences don’t work?”➡️ “How can I improve behaviour without shouting or punishment?”➡️ “How do I teach better choices in the moment?” —then this episode is a must-listen. 📲 Stay Connected: 📲 Instagram: @AbleTraining📲 LinkedIn: Able Training📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast🌐 Website: AbleHub.uk