We all possess an inner world, that we call the mind, no one doubts this. This inner world consists of our feelings, needs, intentions, perceptions, dreams, ambitions, expectations, amongst other.

Mentalization is about how we relate to this inner world, both that our own and of others', in a way that is open, curious and continuous. You can imagine how this is especially important in a marriage where you share so much of your life together.

Mentalization is therefore the focal point of episode #13, which is a continuation of the series ‘359 ° marriage’, were we focus on the many different facets of marriage. We talk about how the best framework for a good ability to mentalize is deeply dependent on a secure attachment to our parents. The ability to mentalize is something we take with us in to adult life and is especially important when we start a family of our own.

This ability determines how good we are at forming strong bonds with our loved ones. But it also determines our ability to understand and deal with strong emotions and reactions, in ourselves and others.