Part 1: teenagers / Part 2: parents and teachers.
Part 1: Having sound emotional intelligence does not depend on being more or less extroverted. It doesn’t depend on how well you can understand another person. The work always begins in you, it is a subtle training we do as we are growing up, with the adults that surround us or have maximum influence over us. These can be trusting adults such as parents, teachers and even older cousins or family members who responsibly help us to manage our first arguments, breakups and even celebrations. We all need to be taught how to identify the sensations that emotions produce in our body and from these clues is where our work begins. In today’s episode you will understand how vital it is for your mental health to have a high knowledge of your own EQ. Once you are able to understand yourself better, this fosters stronger more compassionate relationships with others. As the quote goes “Feel the feeling but don’t become the emotion. Witness it. Allow it. Release it.”
Part 2: Today I propose a journey through your emotions, return to those first memories to recognize what they have taught you, what patterns they have been building in your way of thinking, feeling and acting and, most importantly, how they benefit or harm you in your communication and your relationships.
Are you aware of how you live joy and how you handle sadness? Do they have something to do with those first memories? It is likely that your strategy, and yes, unconsciously we have it, in the face of those unpleasant emotions such as anger, sadness or fear, are not the ones you would like because you stay in them longer than necessary, or they lead you to situations conflict with other people.
The psychology doctor Susan David that I mentioned in previous episodes, refers to a tool to manage these emotions. She calls it "Meta view", or what the founders of neurolinguistic programming called META back in the sixties, a bird's eye view of our emotions to enjoy another perspective that separates us from those emotions, or as Viktor Frankl also said , allow more space between stimulus and emotion. Dr. David also recognizes that normally "most of us disguise our emotions or go over them by covering them up so we don't have to confront them."
In this episode, I invite you to reflect on those patterns and decide what you want to improve to achieve better communication and more satisfying relationships. And for this I offer you a very useful NLP tool called the six steps to freedom that you can start practicing.
On this occasion you can also access the free questionnaire How to enjoy a better relationship with your emotions? And since gratitude is one of our values, we are going to offer a personalized evaluation session to the first ten people who complete this questionnaire and share with us which area they would like to improve. The answers will be treated with the professional ethics that the ICF, International Coaching Federation requires and adequate privacy only to offer topics that revert to the improvement of the educational community.
Thank you very much for your time. Goldie & Mercedes