50 Common Causes of Family Business Conflict and how to deal with them.  

Family Business Mediation Video No 50.  Cuckoo Consultants.   

By Jon Kenfield. Family Business Mediator. Solutionist.  

• This video is unique amongst the 50 in this series in that it looks to an entirely external conflict generator that can act upon the family - as opposed to the other 49 causes, where the family does its own great job of creating its very own conflict.  

• Cuckoo consultants come into family business environments, usually from a business background, sporting business-based credentials and perspectives.  They create confusion and conflict by promoting perfectly appropriate business advice to the wrong people, in the wrong way.    

• They sound sensible, logical and commercial, but their advice is completely unworkable.   

• The problem lies in their ignorance of the unique requirements of family business - much as a cuckoo has no concern for the eggs it turfs out of a host nest to make space for its own egg.    

• Cuckoos can be existing trusted advisers, keen to protect their clients from outside consultants (the flea wishes to own the dog); consultants from HR or “normal” business backgrounds who believe they have the required experience and skills; advisers who don’t know what they don’t know; or ones who just don’t care.  

Solution  

• Approach all adviser engagements as life or death projects - because they could be, for your family and for your business.       

• Check every proposed adviser’s family business advisory credentials, including training, experience and, most importantly, real testimonials and referees.  

• Don’t rely on accreditation alone.  Real knowledge and experience, and demonstrable skills, are far more important.  

• Meet them, ask questions and judge their answers.  

• Importantly, as with all adviser engagements, assess them for the quality of the questions they ask you.  Any adviser that proposes or recommends doing anything before they have a reasonable understanding of your needs is a salesperson, first and foremost.  In all probability, that’s not the key skill you’re looking for.  

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