In this episode of 420 Reasons Why I Quit Drinking Alcohol, I tell the story of being set up with my friend’s brother—a guy who, on the surface, seemed like a good match. But what no one told me, what no one was honest about, was that he was a complete mess.

There were whispers of red flags, but no one waved them in front of me. Everyone stayed quiet. I was left to discover the truth on my own—slowly, painfully—as I tried to convince myself that this could be something real.

Looking back, I realize how often I ended up in situations like this—messy, unfiltered, avoidable—because I was so used to numbing out with alcohol. I didn’t trust my intuition. I ignored my gut. And I surrounded myself with people who didn’t want to rock the boat by being honest. I thought I was chasing love and connection, but I was actually attracting chaos because I hadn’t yet learned how to choose peace.

When we’re drinking, we tend to attract what we reflect—unresolved hurt, inner chaos, and confusion. And sometimes, the people around us enable it by staying silent. They mean well, but the silence is damaging.

Here’s the message: You deserve honesty. You deserve people who speak up when something’s off. And most importantly, you deserve to trust yourself enough to walk away when your gut says no—even if no one else will say it for you.

Alcohol muted my voice and dulled my instincts. Sobriety gave both back.

Ask yourself: Are you surrounding yourself with people who protect your peace—or just preserve your comfort?

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