In this episode, Dr. Baruch HaLevi dives into one of the most transformative tools he teaches in men’s peer groups: the practice of experience sharing. Too often, men (and people in general) fall into the trap of giving advice—“you should do this”—which shuts down real connection and growth. Instead, Dr. B shows how shifting from fixing mode to sharing our own lived experience opens the door to authenticity, dignity, and transformation.
Whether you’re a father, husband, coach, or simply someone striving to show up better in your relationships, this episode reveals how to move beyond advice-giving and step into true presence and empathy.
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What You'll Learn:
The danger of “should-ing” – how advice shuts down conversation and connection.
Experience sharing explained – why telling your story helps others uncover their own solutions.
From clergy to coach – Dr. B’s journey of learning to let go of giving answers.
The dignity of free will – respecting others’ autonomy, even when they ask for advice.
Peer group practices – how men’s circles use tapping and tools to shift out of fixing mode.
Gestalt perspective – seeing the whole person instead of just their problem.
📌 Timestamp Highlights:
0:05 – Why men’s peer groups are so powerful and how tools apply to everyday life.
0:43 – “Should-ing all over everyone”: the natural impulse to give advice.
1:18 – How Dr. B’s background as a rabbi reinforced the expectation of having the answers.
2:18 – The impact of giving advice: shutting down conversations with kids and peers.
2:41 – Introduction to experience sharing as an alternative to advice.
3:38 – Adapting the level of guidance for children at different ages (4 vs. 14 vs. 24).
4:02 – Gestalt and the importance of seeing the “whole” rather than fragments.
5:15 – Why even as a coach or therapist, Dr. B refuses to dictate choices.
6:14 – Maintaining a man’s dignity and free will instead of giving the “easy out.”
6:50 – Why listening, empathizing, and sharing experiences is the real path to transformation.
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